Jan 12, 2012

"I'm Jealous of..."

I'm interrupting my normally awesome run/race/all-about-puppies life recaps to tell the world one of my biggest pet peeves. And since this blog is my own narcissistic creation, I figure I can do that without penalty =)

Everyone has pet peeves. Most of them are related to things other people do (or don't do). For example, I hate it when people drive slow in the left lane.


Or when people eat food with their mouths open. Or when my husband random people don't put the toilet seat up.

Runners are a different breed of people, I'm convinced, and we have our own set of "runner's pet peeves." People who don't share the sidewalk. Drivers who give no less than 3 inches when they pass you. Those jerks that jump in front of you during a race and then walk or slow down (there is a special place in hell for those people, and it's the same place where all those pokey people in the left lane go too).


But the biggest thing that irks me is when people say those infamous words, "I'm jealous of you."

We've probably all been on the receiving end (and maybe the giving end) of this line. A friend says they're jealous that you run, they certainly could never do that.

A slower runner than you says they're jealous of your pace.

Someone (usually holding a burger and fries) is jealous of your slim waist.

It goes on and on. I had a friend back in the day who used to always tell me how "lucky" I was to do so well in school and music and how "jealous" she was of me that I was successful (in school, at least). I never had the nerve to tell her how much her comments unnerved me (ironic, no?).

Here's what it comes down to: what you put into it is what you'll get out of it.

Don't be jealous of my grades/performance. I study a lot. Do you?

Don't be jealous that I can run. I get out the door even on days I don't feel like running. Do you?

Don't be jealous of the way my body looks. I eat healthy and live active. Do you?

Don't be jealous of my race times. I push my body to its limits in speed work and long runs. Do you?

So every time someone expresses their jealously toward -whatever accomplishment- I've made, a part of me starts screaming inside, "are you jealous of all the time I put into it, too?"

I admire people who run fast and often. I admire the 'smart' people . I admire my talented colleagues in my field. And yes, part of me wants to have what they have. But I know that I'll only be as good as I make myself be.



What's your pet peeve?

12 comments:

  1. Great post! My big peeve is when someone looks at me and somehow assumes I must not eat because I am very petite and because I'm vegetarian it must only be lettuce. Just stand back and watch me polish off a pizza ;-)

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    1. I hear ya... as a fellow vegetarian it drives me buggy that people think feeding me a salad is enough (then turning around telling me I'm not eating enough).

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  2. I so agree with all of this! My pet peeve is when people say, "You're so lucky" when I tell them about something going on that I'm excited about. It's not luck - I either worked hard, saved a lot, was patient so that I could that thing, etc. I hate when people think I have things handed to me especially if it's after I've done a lot of hard work to get where I am.

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    1. Exactly!! It downplays all the hard work we've done to get there.

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  3. Well said! This post made me laugh. Way to share those pet peeves, I definitely agree with you on these.

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  4. I L_O_V_E my coworkers, but as the "young one" by about 20 years, my department thinks my working out/health consciousness is insane. They're overweight, and the one that's a type 2 diabetic says "Listen to this crazy girl, you get up at 5am to go to the gym. You'll be the healthiest corpse I guess. I'll be the one that lived well and enjoyed food!" I hate to think it, but she'll get there a lot sooner than me. My other coworker is a pre-diabetic and lost 15lbs because of it. I wrote her a whole nutrition plan etc, at her request, and she's never used it. I can air these peeves because they are no where near blogs, but their unhealthiness disturbs me. Snobby? Maybe. But I want to be healthy for my kids AND grandkids.

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  5. Oh man, that's got to be frustrating. I guess there's no amount of pushing you can do, they've got to make the decisions themselves.

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  6. You speak for many of us!!! The sister comment to "I'm jealous," is the whispered statement, "I hate her," about some random person who looks good or does something good. How about, "I admire her," or "I'm impressed."? Do they only feel good about themselves by putting down someone who has or does something considered very good? You certainly hit the nail on the head with this one, Danielle!

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    1. True, the "I hate her (because she can do things better than me" is another downer. It's so sad that people can't channel their energy into making themselves better... instead they have to rag on others.

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  7. Two giant thumbs up to all of this! It's always so easy to fall into playing the comparison game, especially when it comes to running (among education, employment, salary, etc...). We all need to be happy with what we have and what we can do, and you're right - we are only as good as make ourselves out to be!

    My big running pet peeve is the same one as yours - when people jog in front of you only to stop suddenly or slow to a walk. Hello, people! Move to the side of the road!

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    1. Megan, we should just start stepping on their heels! Maybe that will give them the picture?? =)

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